The Gifted Adult: A Revolutionary Guide for Liberating Everyday Genius(tm) by Ma

Description: The Gifted Adult by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen Are you relentlessly curious and creative, always willing to rock the boat in order to get things done . . . extremely energetic and focused, yet constantly switching gears . . . intensely sensitive, able to intuit subtly charged situations and decipher others' feeling? If these traits sound familiar, then you may be an Everyday Genius—an ordinary person of unusual vision who breaks the mold and isn't afraid to push progress forward. . . .As thought-provoking as Daniel Goleman's Emotional Intelligence, psychologist Mary-Elaine Jacobsen's Gifted Adults draws on a wide range of groundbreaking research and her own clinical experience to show America's twenty million gifted adults how to identify and free their extraordinary potential. Gifted Adults presents the first practical tool for rating your Evolutionary Intelligence Quotient through an in-depth personality-type profile. Demystifying what it means to be a gifted adult, this book offers practical guidance for eliminating self-sabotage and underachievement, helping Everyday Geniuses and those who know, love, and work with them to understand and support the exceptional gifts inherent in these unique personality traits. FORMAT Paperback LANGUAGE English CONDITION Brand New Publisher Description Are you relentlessly curious and creative, always willing to rock the boat in order to get things done . . . extremely energetic and focused, yet constantly switching gears . . . intensely sensitive, able to intuit subtly charged situations and decipher others feeling? If these traits sound familiar, then you may be an Everyday Genius--an ordinary person of unusual vision who breaks the mold and isnt afraid to push progress forward. . . .As thought-provoking as Daniel Golemans Emotional Intelligence, psychologist Mary-Elaine Jacobsens Gifted Adults draws on a wide range of groundbreaking research and her own clinical experience to show Americas twenty million gifted adults how to identify and free their extraordinary potential. Gifted Adults presents the first practical tool for rating your Evolutionary Intelligence Quotient through an in-depth personality-type profile. Demystifying what it means to be a gifted adult, this book offers practical guidance for eliminating self-sabotage and underachievement, helping Everyday Geniuses and those who know, love, and work with them to understand and support the exceptional gifts inherent in these unique personality traits. Author Biography Mary-Elaine Jacobsen, PsyD, is a practicing psychologist and the director of Omega Point Resources for Talent Psychology and Gifted Development. She lives in St. Paul, Minnesota. Table of Contents Table of ContentsPART I. IDENTIFYING EVERYDAY GENIUS1. Beyond Giftedness: Everyday Genius Defined Giftedness Denied The Gifted Adult The Source of Giftedness The Concept of Giftedness Expanded The Five Facets of Freedom 2. Gifted? Not Me We Love Your Unique Products. Just Stop Being So Different! Gifted? Not Me: Unidentified Everyday Genius Telltale Signs of Everyday Genius Facing the Truth about OurselvesWhy Must I Know This about Myself?How Can I Know This about MyselfMisconceptions about Giftedness3. The Everyday Genius: Lost and FoundThe Ugly DucklingWhen a Duck is Not a DuckSeeing the Swan of Everyday GeniusThe Everyday Genius Brought to LightThe Ugly Duckling SyndromeKnow Thyself or Lose ThyselfHow Did the Swan Get Lost?4. Lost In The IQ GameWhats Smart and What Is Not?What is IQ, Really?Beyond Outdated IQThe Unexpected Gifted AdultMistaken Identities by the MillionsThe Everyday Genius Next Door5. Standing What You "Know" on Its HeadThe Everyday Genius Mind: The Same and DifferentHow "Different" Becomes "Wrong"Gifted NeedsThe Destiny Question: Disown or Deliver?Are There Others Like Me? And Are They Normal?Rebel, Nerd, or Marvel?Reframing GeniusPART II. EVOLUTIONARY INTELLIGENCE6. Evolutionary Intelligence: The Next StepRetesting the Waters of IntelligenceWhats Evolution Got to Do with It?The EvI Formula7. The Evolutionary Intelligence ProfileAbout the EvI ProfileWhat the EvI Score Tells YouExploring Your EvIQ ScoreEvolutionary Intelligence in Real LifeIt Only Looks Revolutionary After the FactPART III. WHATS "WRONG" WITH YOU IS WHATS RIGHT WITH YOU: REVEALING AND HEALING EVERYDAY GENIUS8. Gifted or Cursed?Correcting the "Too-Too" MisdiagnosisDéjà vuGifted or Cursed? My Own BeginningsFive Basic Truths About GiftednessA Bittersweet ExperienceThe Essentials of Self-DiscoveryThe Real Enemy—Fitting InThe Ten Criticisms9. Confronting the First Five CriticismsRewriting Personal HistoryCriticism #10: "Why Dont You Slow Down?"Criticism #9: "You Worry About Everything!"Criticism #8: "Cant You Just Stick with One Thing?"Criticism #7: "Youre So Sensitive and Dramatic!"Criticism #6: "You Have to Do Everything the Hard Way!"10. Getting Free from the Top Five CriticismsCriticism #5: "Youre So Demanding!"Criticism #4: "Cant You Ever be Satisfied?"Criticism #3: "Youre So Driven!"Criticism #2: "Where Do You Get Those Wild Ideas?"Criticism #1: "Who Do You Think You Are?"11. Meeting the False SelfMeeting the False SelfFive Blocks That Enslave the Self and Eclipse the SoulIndulging the False SelfDenying Gifts and TalentsGetting Over Giftedness GuiltThe "Safe Life"Making Friends with RiskSeeking ApprovalBreaking the Approval-Seeking HabitImpostorismUnlearning Impostorism12. How Assets Can Become LiabilitiesThe Shadow Side of Everyday Genius: Disorderly ConductWounds and ReactionsLooking Back to Move ForwardEveryday Genius—The Second Time AroundThe "Teachable Moment"The Reactivity PendulumThe Unbecoming ExtremesPART IV. MANAGING THYSELF: SELF-MASTERY AND INTEGRATION13. The Big Three Differences: Intensity, Complexity, and DriveManaging the Flow: No Trickles, No TorrentsCharting an Evolutionary CourseIntensity: Quantitatively DifferentComplexity: Qualitatively DifferentDrive: Motivationally Different14. Self-Mastery: Managing Intensity, Complexity, and DriveThe Drive to Perfect Versus PerfectionismEnding the PerfectionismProcrastination Seesaw: Ready, Set, Go!Managing FeelingImpulse ManagementReviving Your Natural OptimismSmarter than Ever: Becoming SuperconsciousFrom Stress Tolerance to Stress ManagementThe Life Balance PlanFive Strokes of Genius for Being Successfully Different15. The Everyday Genius in RelationshipsNot Phony and Not LonelyThe Everyday Genius in LovePartner with the Person, Not the PotentialThe AcquiesceAccuse PendulumListening for LoveReflective ListeningAssertive Instead of DemandingThe Selfishness That Enhances IntimacyReal RelatingRelationships in the Workplace: Working Together, Preserving Individuality16. Self-LiberationSelf-LiberationEvolutionary Moments: A Preview of Lifes Coming AttractionsThe Catalyzing Evolutionary MomentTrue-Life Evolutionary MomentsThe Rewards of GeniusDeclaring a Personal MissionBeyond I-nessTen Signs of Advanced DevelopmentReconciling the Nine DilemmasTrue GeniusAcknowledgmentsNotesRecommended ReadingResourcesIndex Review "PROVOCATIVE . . . UNLOCKS THE KIND OF PASSION THAT GREAT INVENTIONS ARE MADE OF."--New York Daily News"Takes readers beyond the myths and stereotypes about talent and genius . . . Everyone interested in maximizing intelligence, creativity, or productivity will want to read this book."--MAUREEN NEIHART, PSY.D. Contributing editor, Gifted Child Quarterly Review Quote "PROVOCATIVE . . . UNLOCKS THE KIND OF PASSION THAT GREAT INVENTIONS ARE MADE OF." --New York Daily News "Takes readers beyond the myths and stereotypes about talent and genius . . . Everyone interested in maximizing intelligence, creativity, or productivity will want to read this book." --MAUREEN NEIHART, PSY.D. Excerpt from Book 1 BEYOND GIFTEDNESS: EVERYDAY GENIUS DEFINED No bird soars too high, if he soars with his own wings. --Friedrich Nietzsche To look at her, you would never suspect that Ann was in the midst of a crisis. She sat in my office, composed and resplendent in a black Tahari suit. The only sign of any agitation was her habit of coiling and uncoiling her index finger around her strand of pearls. She looked much younger than forty-three. As my client now for nearly four months, she, at first, had been at a loss to explain rationally what brought her to me. "No one ever expects a midlife crisis, Dr. Jacobsen. I certainly didnt," were the first words that Ann spoke to me. At one point in her legal career, Ann had been a dynamo, working on a team that won a major case involving suspected violations of interstate commerce laws in the dairy industry. The lead attorney acknowledged that it was her dogged efforts that helped dismantle the governments case. Ann seemed destined to make partner before she was thirty-five and was guaranteed the pick of the firms highest-profile and potentially most lucrative cases. Success hadnt come without a price. Those who were passed over for promotion in favor of Ann attributed her meteoric rise to favoritism and not her razor-sharp analytical skills, her amazing intuition, and her twenty-six-hour workdays. Once lauded as the consummate most valuable player, Ann was eventually plagued by not-so-quiet whispers about her chameleonlike ability to transform herself into whomever each partner wanted her to be. Suddenly the qualities that had once been her most valuable assets felt like her greatest liabilities. Always someone who took every criticism to heart, Ann stopped trusting her intuition and her allies. Rather than ranging far and wide to offer colleagues help, anticipating their problems before they even identified them, she kept to a carefully circumscribed territory in order to restore her coworkers regard for her. Her boundless interest and enthusiasm, previously characterized by being the first to volunteer to tackle the thorniest problem, now slid precipitously. She became aloof and distant. "After all the problems I created by being a standout, I decided that the best way to get along was to go along and just joylessly grind my way through the day like everyone else. It seemed to be the only way that I could make working there bearable. Everyone else seemed pleased about my so-called change, but I was miserable." A few months before Ann first came to see me, Id walked into my office one afternoon and was startled to find a man standing at the window tugging at one of the slats in the miniblinds and peering out at the street. He turned around and saw me. Then he took a couple of steps toward me, muttered, "How ya doing, Doc?" and stalked to the bookcase lining one wall. He pulled a book off the shelf and started leafing through it. "You must be John," I said as evenly as I could. "My clients usually wait in the reception area." "Well, I saw that other woman come out, so I came on in. You dont mind, do you." There was little to suggest that John was asking a question. John soon put back the book and took down a few others, smiling ruefully and shaking his head after examining a couple of their titles. Eventually I came to understand that John was very nearly incapable of keeping still for longer than a few minutes at a time. In this instance, the classic stereotype of the patient lying on the couch was laughable. John was the epitome of the restless peripatetic at home and at the office. Early on, John described how he perceived others. "Its like the rest of the world is moving along at twenty-four frames per second, normal film speed, but to me thats slow motion. Even when somebodys talking during a meeting, I swear I look at their mouths and its like Im advancing the tape frame by frame on my VCR. So, okay, film and videotape are two very different things, so maybe thats not the best example, but maybe its more like the worlds a blender on stir and Im on liquefy." Johns self-editing and criticism aside, his description is apt. To someone like John, the rest of the world does seem as if its lagging behind. From people walking too slowly on sidewalks and those counting out exact change in a supermarket checkout line to others arriving at a solution that seemed obvious to John minutes, days, or sometimes weeks before, everyone else always seemed to be moving at a glacial pace. A true multitasker, John used to upset everyone at meetings because he could monitor the flow of the conversation, read a report, scan the agenda for the next item of discussion, then jump ahead or interject at seemingly inappropriate moments. "Im sick of being told to slow down. If Im on an express train and theyre on a local, why dont they switch trains and get onto mine? Its time for them to be responsible for catching up to me." Unfortunately for John, what others perceived as his uncooperative attitude eventually caught up with him. While he hadnt been fired from his job as a creative director at an advertising agency, hed been essentially stripped of all authority. Hed been asked to stay on in a consulting capacity but was given little real work to do. John clearly sensed what was about to happen to him, but that only made him dig in his heels more deeply on some issues and veer recklessly from one more outlandish idea to the next, wielding his considerable wit like a saber. Hed gone from being a visionary Renaissance man of the company to persona non grata in a matter of months. "It wouldnt bother me so much, but before I came along most of them thought that HTML was what you saw when some of the letters burned out in a neon hotel or motel sign. I got us a jump start into Web advertising, and now everyone is reaping the benefits and claiming they were the masterminds behind the whole thing. Its like working with a bunch of Al Gores claiming they were the ones who helped develop the World Wide Web. Of course, everybody knows that Dan Quayle was the one who invented the spell checker." GIFTEDNESS DENIED While John and Ann couldnt have been more different in certain respects, they do have much in common. They are both gifted adults standing poised at a crossroads. And they both initially recoiled at my suggestion that they were gifted. Like John and Ann, when many of us hear the word gifted we almost always think two things: (1) "Only schoolchildren are gifted" and (2) "Since Im not a child, I cant be gifted." These automatic responses are understandable given what most of us have been told about bright people. But most of what we have been told is radically incorrect and enormously incomplete. Most of us think we know what giftedness is, but were unable to describe it or define it accurately. Part of the reason for that is that we live in a culture that emphasizes products over process. We can see what gifted people produce, but we cant see the internal systems and operations that produced those products. In the previous sentence, even I had to resort to using words more suited to something manufactured mechanically than to how the brain really functions. While most people in society would accept the definition that giftedness is as giftedness does, it is not adequate for the purposes of this book. Most definitions of giftedness include these components: * Initially having and using natural abilities without benefit of formal training * Rapid learning * Creative and productive thinking * High academic achievement * Superior proficiency in one or more domains (e.g., mathematics, performing arts, leadership) As you can see, the emphasis is on the cognitive components of giftedness. While the cognitive components are certainly important to consider in discussing giftedness, too often there is a piece missing. Giftedness is not merely as giftedness does or as giftedness thinks. Instead, giftedness is as it thinks as well as feels, senses, perceives, and does. The Gifted Adult explores the psychology and personality of gifted adults--the most underidentified group of potential achievers in our society. Regrettably, too often in our society those who would most readily be identified as "smart" are most at odds with making their intelligence work for them. Quite often it works against gifted adults, preventing them from producing the kind of products that traditionally are the markers of giftedness. One possible explanation for this discrepancy is that we place a great deal of emphasis on educating gifted children. We understand that gifted children operate differently from those in the mainstream. As a result, we try to accommodate these differences among children by providing them with special programs and enrichment activities. However, even in the best school districts these programs are often inadequate and make the fundamental mistake of using only standard measures such as IQ as a basis for admission. Programs for the talented and gifted are a relatively recent phenomenon. As a mother of three very different gifted children, as a former educator and advocate for gifted education, I can attest to the benefits and deficits of these programs. However, despite the varying quality of such programs and their methods of identifying students, they stand head and shoulders above earlier efforts to educate gifted children, s Details ISBN0345434927 Author Mary-Elaine Jacobsen Short Title GIFTED ADULT Pages 416 Language English ISBN-10 0345434927 ISBN-13 9780345434920 Media Book Format Paperback DEWEY 153.98 Year 2000 Residence St. Paul, MN, US Subtitle A Revolutionary Guide for Liberating Everyday Genius(tm) DOI 10.1604/9780345434920 Place of Publication New York Country of Publication United States AU Release Date 2000-11-28 NZ Release Date 2000-11-28 US Release Date 2000-11-28 UK Release Date 2000-11-28 Publisher Random House USA Inc Publication Date 2000-11-28 Imprint Random House Inc Audience General We've got this At The Nile, if you're looking for it, we've got it. With fast shipping, low prices, friendly service and well over a million items - you're bound to find what you want, at a price you'll love! 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